Apr. 14th, 2017

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Well, the Capitals won, though it wasn't as clean a win as I would have liked. They were down two, tied it, and then won in overtime. Still, a win is a win, especially in the playoffs. We had dinner at a new place called The Smith which is pretty much standard fare, but very very good standard fare.

The seats in the 200 section were very nice. More or less the opposite side from where we usually sit, but really, there aren't many bad seats in Verizon Center. I think we'll be able to deal with that.

I got an email from Dreamwidth that was sort of a "Hi Livejournal refugees" type of email which said most of the things I like hearing. I didn't know much about the history of Dreamwidth or how it came into being, but having read about it, I'm gladder still to have made the switch. I also can't help but smile to know that it's incorporated in my home state. It's not for nothing that I've stayed in Maryland this long, particularly Montgomery County. I'm very much a product of the environment I grew up in, so it's not surprising that I'd want to stay in it. Also, Silver Spring is just a great place. That said, Lisa just sent me a link about tech jobs in New Zealand. I considered submitting my resume for the Looksee thing they had where they offered to fly you out for an interview if you were selected, but I didn't feel like going up against the sheer volume of competition that was going to ensue. Still, if the right situation came up, I'd be on a plane over there in a second. There aren't many places on Earth I'd leave Maryland to go live in, but New Zealand is on the list.

Next week is going to be our 13th wedding anniversary. I already got Lisa her gift, but for laughs, I looked up which anniversary this is for us. It's lace. I then laughed because lace is something Lisa definitely does not do. In fact, I've never dated a girl who ever was into lace or lingerie to my knowledge. Neither really do anything for me, and I never would ask a woman to wear something for my benefit that she wouldn't want to wear on her own. As I've often said, Lisa could wear burlap if she really wanted to, and I'd still find her sexy. Sexiness isn't about how you look or what you wear, in my opinion. It's about how you feel, whom you're with, and the connection you have. I've never known any of that to be aided by one of us wearing a thong. (Though I'd be willing if Lisa decided she wanted me to, but I'm weird.) Anyway, we're looking forward to having Jen and Philip down, having them finally meet Chris and Leah, and marching on Saturday for science. Only sad part will be that we've agreed to board the dogs for the weekend so that we don't have to worry about getting home to them during the march. I hate doing that, not because it's hard on them. The place we board them is freaking Shangri-la for dogs. Dogtopia if anyone's interested in dog boarding. The reason I hate boarding the dogs is that it means they aren't with us. I miss them badly enough when I go to work, but to sleep in a dogless bed...that's rough. Still, I'll be looking at 10 days of that in Germany, so I better get a grip.

I decided to keep Prague on the itinerary after all for the Germany trip. Don Giovanni not withstanding, there is still a lot of great stuff to see over there. I'm hoping to do some planning this weekend.

I downloaded the enhanced edition of Planescape Torment yesterday in between work, emptying and refilling the dogs (walking and feeding them) and going back to meet everyone for hockey. It's definitely dated, but it's still a great game. I haven't legitimately played an RPG computer game in a long time, but I always wanted to come back to this one and run through it again. I remember the basic storyline, but that doesn't make it any less enjoyable.

OK, I'm rambling enough. Still waking up, but it's time to do some coding. Ta ta.
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My access filters for this journal were extremely old, and largely based on my Livejournal account. Most of the people in them don't even use LJ much less Dreamwidth anymore.

I haven't set up any new ones, so for now, anything I post that is friends locked will be viewable to all of those I grant access to.

I haven't quite figured out what I want to set up for filters yet, but for now, if I think I'm going to post anything that any of you might consider TMI, I'll just stick it behind a cut. For the most part, I suspect my TMI will be relatively tame as I'm not all that wild anymore, but you never know.
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I'm starting up a set of posts that are an attempt to try to help new readers understand who I am, and to give me an opportunity to reflect on who I am, who I've been, and how I got from there to here.

I have been different people at various times in my life. I mean, I've always been me, but I haven't always been this version of me. I suppose it's my way of saying that I am the sum of my parts, I guess, but the point is that if you compared me as I am today with who I was when I was, say, 14, or 24, or even 34, you'd see the same person for the most part, but there would be differences that aren't obviously related to age or maturity.

I often look back at the various versions of myself and cringe. Even reading old entries here, I can't help but roll my eyes at how blind I have been to my own privileges, microagressions, etc. They're hopefully not too glaring to the casual observer, but remembering who I was when I wrote some of them is sometimes upsetting to me. It's a good thing I didn't keep a journal in High School. Aside from the fact that my spelling was atrocious back then, I also really had my head shoved up my ass back then. Case in point, I got sucked into what I can only call a born again Christian cult. Suffice to say, I don't do a lot of bragging about that.

A sobering thing to consider, for me, is that the current president (I throw up in my soul to even say that much) has become a mirror to me, reflecting every aspect of being a cisgendered white male of a certain age in this country. I don't claim to be fully aware of the extent of my privilege, largely because I think such privilege tends to be more obvious to those who don't have it. I've come to realize that part of how my privilege manifests itself is to look at people like our current president, and unconsciously congratulating myself for not being like him. It's almost like a drug, that sense of satisfaction at not being as bad as the next guy, and it's a trap I've been trying to work on not falling into anymore.

As a man of privilege, I feel that it's on me to do what I can to help those who are being marginalized, oppressed, or otherwise held back from living their lives as they wish. There are limits to what I can do, of course, but I figure whatever I can do is better than nothing, and hopefully, what effort I make will be beneficial to someone in a real and meaningful way.

Part of the fallout of disliking previous versions of myself is that I've been hesitant to connect with people because I worry that I'm not, in some way, good enough to know them. This is another thing I've been working against recently, as is evidenced by the fact that I've been pretty brazen in my friending frenzy. This is kind of my way. Whenever I break through some sort of personal barrier or take on something new, I tend to go in head first at full speed. It may not be the healthiest way to go about it, but it's kind of what I do. Lisa tells me that she admires that about me, so I'm hoping that it's a healthy thing for the most part.

Anyway, this is the current version of me. I don't claim to be the best version of myself, but I try. My honest hope is that I do not fail any of you, but should I, I hope sincerely that I will have the self awareness to recognize it and make amends.
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I just looked at some old entries in here, and discovered that my older entries had been duplicated, with the duplicates of locked entries being made public. No idea how that happened, but my solution is to basically lock everything from the start of my journal through last year. Not sure when the duplicate entries started or when, but I've got some stuff there that I'd like the entire world not to see. I can only assume it was some kind of a glitch with the import.

*update* I was able to successfully lock all of the old posts, but I'm still a little vexed that they were hanging out there publicly for all to see. Too late to unring that bell I guess, but oh well. If anyone saw anything that we need to talk about (I'm talking mainly about non DW users I know who might have seen something that I said that they had a problem with) please reach out.

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